“I believe it will have become evident why, for me, adjectives such as happy, contented, blissful, enjoyable, do not seem quite appropriate to any general description of this process I have called the good life, even though the person in this process would experience each one of these at the appropriate times. But adjectives which seem more generally fitting are adjectives such as enriching, exciting, rewarding, challenging, meaningful. This process of the good life is not, I am convinced, a life for the faint-fainthearted. It involves the stretching and growing of becoming more and more of one’s potentialities. It involves the courage to be. It means launching oneself fully into the stream of life. Yet the deeply exciting thing about human beings is that when the individual is inwardly free, he chooses as the good life this process of becoming.”—
Carl R. Rogers, On Becoming a Person: A Therapist’s View of Psychotherapy
“In a child’s eyes, a mother is a goddess. She can be glorious or terrible, benevolent or filled with wrath, but she commands love either way. I am convinced that this is the greatest power in the universe.”—
N.K. Jemisin, The Hundred Thousand Kingdoms | @wordsnquotes-net
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“In the world I am. Always a stranger. I do not understand its language. It does not understand my silence.”
- Bei Dao (via quotemadness)via @quotemadness
“People do not see you, They invent you and accuse you.”— Hélène Cixous, from The Selected Plays of Hélène Cixous; “The Perjured City,” | @violentwavesofemotion
“You must be prepared to work always without applause.”
there’s a fine line between honesty and insensitivity, a friend told me today
And if you couldn’t be loved, the next best thing was to be let alone.
How many more times will I have to experience someone using the things I say in confidence only to be use against me later only as a way to judge my character? I know true friendship and true love because I’ve sacrificed so much of my pride and feeling of self-worth for people before. You can never prepare enough, it seems, so that others may love you with an open mind and heart without the human tendency to judge you of your character. And especially when another is in distress in his/her own life, out of in-confidence and self-doubt the easiest way for others to feel as if they have power over you is to strike you in ways and words that make you feel as low as dirt and worthless like no one could ever care for a person such as you. Perhaps, maybe so to even be able to hinder you from feeling and thinking good about yourself at that fleeting moment because they too feel so low, they’d prefer to drag you down with them. Mistakes are one thing, but an inability to control actions and words that may inevitably kill a person’s soul and spirit is another. Even worse is simply the want to do so purposely while knowing it’s done out of revenge to hurt another, without fear of the consequences these types of words bear.
I know plenty of people who are willing to talk down on me without having known me or even knowing me from afar. The closest ones who truly love you will have no words of condemnation despite your wrong-doings against them. Those are people worth respecting and who you know are in your corner. I know the taste of that kind of love. I have no room for people who condemn me, I have no room for judgement. I don’t have time and energy to allow others to brainwash me back into convincing myself that I am of no worth to anyone even to myself.
Some people can be pseudo-intelligent and I’ve realized the most dangerous people to come across are those who pose as kind-hearted and perfectly good and then turn at you as a tyrant. There’s only so much I can do to aid a failing relationship, one that ended for me long ago.
Here’s to relief, that a new life is beginning and finally this prolonged darkness- passing.
“There’s a difference between really loving someone and loving the idea of her.”
- Gillian Flynn (via quotemadness)via @quotemadness